40 Questions to Ask Your Best Friend

You think you know everything about them. You don't. These questions are built for people who've been close for years — and still have more to discover about each other.

40 questions
01
What do you think has been the biggest way I've changed since we met?
02
What's something you've never told me but have wanted to?
03
What's a memory of us that you think about more than I'd expect?
04
What do you think I'm best at that I don't give myself enough credit for?
05
What's the most honest thing you'd say about who I am right now?
06
What's something you've always wanted to ask me but never have?
07
What do you think my biggest blind spot is?
08
What has our friendship taught you?
09
What's a fear or struggle you've never fully told me about?
10
What do you think I need more of in my life right now?
11
What's your favorite version of me — what period or mood brings it out?
12
What's something you think I'm wrong about but have given up arguing with me about?
13
What's a moment where I really came through for you that you still think about?
14
What's something you hope never changes about our friendship?
15
What's a goal or dream of yours that I don't know the full story on?
16
What do you think you need right now that you're not getting?
17
What's something you've been going through lately that you haven't fully talked about?
18
What would you want me to know if we somehow stopped talking for a long time?
19
What's the funniest memory you have of us that still makes you laugh?
20
What's a version of your life you've imagined that you've never told me about?
21
What's something I do that's annoying but you'd never actually want me to stop?
22
If you had to describe me to someone who'd never met me, what would you say?
23
What do you think is the biggest thing holding me back right now?
24
What's something you've outgrown that I might not have noticed?
25
What's something you'd want me to call you out on if I ever see it?
26
What's a regret you have about something in our friendship?
27
What's the hardest period of your life that you didn't fully let me in on?
28
What do you think makes our friendship different from your other friendships?
29
What's something about your life right now that you're actually proud of?
30
What do you think you need to hear right now that you're not saying out loud?
31
When did you first realize we were actually going to be real friends — not just people who hung out?
32
What's a quality in yourself that you think I see better than you do?
33
What's something you'd want our friendship to look like in ten years?
34
What's something I've said to you that's stuck with you longer than you'd expect?
35
What do you think you and I have in common that most people wouldn't notice?
36
What's something about your life right now that's harder than it looks from the outside?
37
What's a dream you've partially given up on that you haven't told me about?
38
What's the most important thing you've learned from one of your hardest experiences?
39
What's a version of the future you're hopeful about — even quietly?
40
What do you want me to know about where you are right now in life?

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Questions to ask your best friend work differently than questions for people you're still getting to know — because with a best friend, the depth is already there. You're not trying to impress or ease in gently. You can go straight to the real stuff. These 40 questions are designed for exactly that: conversations that only work because you already trust each other, and that make the friendship stronger for having had them.